The concept is so simple, yet it can have a profound effect in your life. However, most people do not believe it can be done, or necessarily want to do it.
Learning to shut the door on work once you leave work, will fundamentally change your life, resulting in feeling more positive results emotionally, mentally and physically. It will also improve your relationships. When you leave work, leave work, and do not take any of it home with you. Leave it in your office, at your desk, or in that particular area where your work files are. You are done. Now enjoy the rest of your day or weekend.
Why is it important to keep work at work? Because work-related stress is at an all-time high. People need time away from work, and work phones and computers. No thinking about work, time to regroup. Work stress causes you to feel stuck, unable to untangle yourself from the web of work, home, and personal issues at the end of the day. This results in even more stress, which increases emotional sensitivity, leaving you with a host of negative emotions like frustration, irritability, impatience and anxiety to name a few.
If you want good emotional and mental health, and you want stronger healthier relationships you need to learn to shut the door. Do not throw out your relationship balance because you are overloaded with work issues which you bring with you where ever you go. When life is out-of-balance emotions flare up, personal relationships suffer, and you have less free time. But you say some day it will be different not understanding your body and brain need to refresh, to renew. Work does the opposite. It drains the brain over time creating a different set of problems.
The first rule is more like a commandment, thou shalt do no work at home. Period. The funny thing here is you see the same behavior as addicts do thinking when they say it is not a problem. The excuses come automatically without thing through to see if a new approach is needed.
If you do not quit taking work home, over time, your emotional, mental and physical health will suffer. When you are young, you don’t notice the small changes taking place in your body, emotions, and health when you are stressed-out. you will bounce back you say. For those of you who are younger, over time you will see work overload leads to a lack of job satisfaction, fatigue and burnout.
You may be able to take work home with you when you are young, but down the road, you will pay a price. Life is about balance. When work enters into your home in any form, it is not a good thing.
The second rule to disconnect from work is when you shut the door, you have to make a commitment not to talk to anyone about work outside of the workplace. What you may not realize is that as you talk about work you refuel the emotions you felt earlier that day. Talking about work keeps your mind on work. This keeps the negative energy going in your body, at least until you stop talking about it.
The final rule is the toughest one, Do not even think about work after you leave work. It will take you some time to learn how to overcome your tendencies to regularly think about work when you are away from work. The key is you have to settle in your mind, meaning your thoughts, that it is time to make a change.
Are you really happy with work right now? How does it affect your personal life, your family, your emotions and behavior? Does it interfere with your free time?
I see the work issue as similar to an obsession. Work has so penetrated a person’s thinking; they do not stop and consider the negative consequences that are building and coming down the road.
Work obsession plays out in one of two ways. First are the people who are driven to succeed, in contrast to those who want to please. Once you choose either path you will have to play the role until you’re done. Breaking free of this type of thinking and behavior is not easy
My advice is weigh your options and what fits for you. These are paths of those who are driven or ingratiate themselves to succeed. The second use for work obsession are those who cannot keep from thinking and talking about work when they are away from work. My advice Stop It. No one is telling you to do this.
The best way to reinforce this change is by making your home your castle. Your home needs to be a safe place where you can take refuge at the end of your day. Do not let a work project, phone call, or even a thought of work cross the threshold into your home. Create the positive atmosphere you want to feel when you walk into your home after work.
Workplace issues are not about what is in front of you, it is how you respond to it when it comes up. People who have difficulty shutting the door on work, whether physically or emotionally, our their own worse bosses! People with work-related stress issues primarily put pressure on themselves.
If you are one of those people who are work-obsessed at some level, then be aware of the consequences coming down the road, beginning with stress related diseases and mental health issues. If you do not value your free time, you are giving in to a cruel taskmaster.